For the past couple of years, I've grown increasingly aware of the fact that the midwest is in no way the "hot spot" for dating. Now, don't get me wrong, there are occasionally good looking guys to appreciate, but those are few and far between. Being 25 now, I've entered the "red zone" in Mormon dating. Men who see 25 year old singles begin to wonder a few different things. Of course a first question could be "why isn't she married"? Which is a valid question. But there are always more to follow. These questions lead all of us normal, unmarried mid-twenty-ites to look like big fat failures! These questions are: "what's wrong with her? She's 25 and not married?!" "What has she done in her past relationships that has caused a man not to marry her?", and "Is she mentally impaired in any way?" I have some questions of my own!! Why does a woman have to be married by the time she's 25? Are we really "damaged goods" if we've taken time to get to know what we like and what we don't? Are men really that threatened by a woman with a career? And, finally, why should we be labeled as the ones with the problem?! What I've seen to happen on a regular basis is that the men who have survived their early 20's without falling into the commitment of marriage then start seeking out the 19 and 20 year old "Hannah Montana's" to date and mold into what they think an ideal wife should be. While that is their choice, it continues to narrow the dating market even further. So, I've broken down and started to look into online dating. It's embarrassing, but desperate times call for desperate measures. I've joined a couple of Mormon dating sites in hopes that I will find someone with the same values and beliefs. You'd think this wouldn't be an issue. You would be wrong. I created a profile and instantly started getting e-mails, flirts, etc. Well, along with these messages, I got some very vulgar responses! I couldn't believe it. I joined a Mormon site to hopefully find a respectful, worthy priesthood holder and I get sexual proposals!? Something is definitely wrong with this picture! Also, many of the men that are on these sites are just as superficial as those in real life. But, HELLO! We're both on this site, so obviously something isn't working out in real life dating for the both of us! I've noticed this superficial behavior predominantly with the Utards. Weird. I've gotten a good kick out of some of the profiles I've read, but some aren't quite accurate. I was randomly looking one day and found a profile that stuck out. This guy talked about how much he loved going to the gym and enjoyed working out and labeled himself as having an "athletic body type". I have no qualms with people who are not in tip top shape, because I am by no means at my peak. But, when you say that you're athletic, you should probably post a picture that portrays that claim, rather than one like this:
Also, in this profile, I went on to read that Athletic Allen was looking for a woman that was thin and beautiful, wears a size 2, wants to have 43 children, sews, cleans and cooks as well as his mother. So, even though I'm an average sized, well dressed, pretty, career driven woman who can cook, I'm not even good enough for the Chubby Chet who proclaims to be an Athletic Allen?! I read a blog from a friend of a friend who addresses this exact issue through the "Mormon Scale of Attractiveness". It perfectly portrays the increasingly disappointing issue that we all deal with in the Mormon dating scene. I guess the only way me and all of my fellow pathetic, 25-30 year old, non married, hopeless sisters will be to take drastic measures. We'll need to quit our jobs, fawn over boys, bring them baked goods and pretend to have the intelligence of a door knob to be considered as "dateable".
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